Unhealthy or abusive relationships can take many forms, and there is no single behavior that automatically defines a relationship as unhealthy. Photo courtesy of Freepik

SACRAMENTO REGION, CA (MPG) - Romantic relationships between teenagers are incredibly complicated. The undertaking of a relationship, very often, requires more maturity than most teens have developed. These relationships are more likely to be riddled with problems include communication, jealousy and selflessness.

As a result, teenagers are more likely to be involved in relationships that are unhealthy, violent and/or abusive. If you are a teenager involved in a romantic relationship it is important to understand the behaviors that may point to an unhealthy and/or abusive relationship.

For Parents/Guardians: Reg Flags in Teenage Relationships

Unhealthy or abusive relationships can take many forms, and there is no single behavior that automatically defines a relationship as unhealthy. However, certain behaviors should raise concern. If your teen shares that they are experiencing any of the following, or if you have noticed these warning signs, it may indicate trouble in their relationship. These behaviors include excessive jealousy or insecurity, invasions of your teen’s privacy, unexpected bouts of anger or rage, unusual moodiness, pressuring a partner into unwanted sexual activity, blaming your teen for problems in the relationship while avoiding personal responsibility, controlling tendencies, an explosive temper, preventing your teen from going out or communicating with others, constantly monitoring your teen’s whereabouts and checking in on their activities and companions, making false accusations, vandalizing or damaging personal property, taunting or bullying and threatening or causing physical violence.

If your partner frequently engages in these behaviors, it may be wise to speak with someone with whom you feel comfortable. Adults who have experience with relationships may be able to provide advice that can help you to determine if you are in any danger.

For Teens: “If You Think You Are in an Abusive Relationship”

If your partner exhibits any of the behaviors mentioned above, or if they have physically harmed you in any way, there are steps you can take to protect yourself. Trust your instincts — if you feel you are in danger or in an unhealthy relationship, it is important to end it. If you are afraid to confront your partner or concerned about how they might react, there are many resources available for help, guidance and counseling. If you believe you are in an abusive relationship, you should consider reaching out to a trusted friend, teacher, parent, or mentor, spending more time with people you feel comfortable with, getting involved in activities you enjoy that connect you with positive influences, seeking guidance from a school counselor or therapist, or calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-SAFE (7233).

Studies have found that negative or abusive behaviors in unhealthy relationships are more likely to increase over time. Abuse escalates as the relationship progresses and victims are more likely to sustain substantial injuries or harm. If you believe that you may be in an abusive or unhealthy relationship do not hesitate to ask for help. Teenage dating violence is more common than you know; you are not alone.

Data shared above from teendvmonth.org/resources/signs-teen-dating-violence/ 

Where Soroptimist International Stands

“Soroptimist International is committed to end all forms of violence which affect women and girls disproportionately. Gender-based violence occurs in the family and in the general community. Whatever form it takes, gender-based violence is deeply rooted in historical inequalities, power imbalances and gender-based discrimination. Gender based violence is a violation of human rights and affects the ability of women and girls to reach their full potential and participate in society.”

How Soroptimist Can Help

Soroptimists feel that awareness and education are powerful tools to stop intimate partner violence in all its forms. If your teen has an abusive partner, or if you just suspect they might, we encourage you or your teen to contact WEAVE’s 24-hour hotline at 916-920-2952, the Sacramento Family Justice Center at 916-875-HOPE (4673) or by calling 2-1-1 or even 9-1-1 if your teen’s immediate safety is in danger. Ensuring that women and girls have the opportunity and ability to complete school and earn a livelihood plays a significant role in reducing vulnerability. 

Soroptimist is an international 501(c)3 non-profit organization who seeks to improve the lives of women and girls through programs leading to social and economic empowerment. The name, Soroptimist, means "best for women," and that's what the organization strives to achieve. Soroptimists are people at their best, working to help other women to be their best. Please email [email protected] to receive more information about Soroptimist International of Rancho Cordova & Gold River, how to become a member, or just learn how you can volunteer with our club members, or visit soroptimistranchocordova.org/